Having a stammer doesn’t discount you from living a happy life. It’s all about acceptance. If you can’t accept yourself for who you are, you’ll struggle to find a real friend in life, let alone a lifelong partner.
One of the many reasons people constantly battle with their speech impediment is simply down to negative attitudes. Negativity is a disease, spreads to those surrounded by it and prevents you from moving forward.
To get through life, and yes, even with a stammer, the simple truth is all you need is confidence.
With that in mind, here are three psychological mind hacks to live a happy life, even with a stammer:
1) Look the part
It’s been proven repeatedly that if you look good, you feel good. So get yourself out of the onesie or PJs, and actually dress to impress. It doesn’t matter if you’re staying in job searching on the internet. When you look good, you feel good. Every time you power on your laptop, computer or your phone, be dressed as though a recruiter is about to come onto a Skype call and interview you for your dream job. That’s how to dress when you’re feeling down. It’s an excellent mind hack for an instantaneous pick me up.
2) Introduce positive psychology into your life
This one is so powerful, it’s unbeatable in the long term success of altering your mood. It’s all about being grateful for the things and the people you have in your life, and dismissing everything negative.
At the end of each day, force yourself to write in a personal journal or diary at least three things you were grateful for that happened during the day. No matter how simple, learn to appreciate things in life. By getting into the habit of writing down a few things daily about what you’re grateful for, your mind will begin to look for things during the day that you can appreciate.
When you’re solely focused on your speech and putting yourself down because it’s not as good as you want it to be, you’re consistently focusing on the negative. Train your mind to recognise the positive things in life that you’re truly grateful for. You’ll appreciate life more in the long-term.
3) Embrace the fear that comes with the territory
The territory of life that is. Fear is a part of life and you can’t let it hold you back. If everyone did, the world as we know it would not exist. Planes wouldn’t fly, and cars wouldn’t drive. Instead, people have faced fear and now we’re entering into an era of driverless cars, despite those who come up with the idea facing the fear of rejection.
There’s always going to be fear in life, whether that’s linked to your stammer or not. You can shy away from it and take to careers like modelling, or sign language interpreting as a way to avoid speaking, but you avoid facing the fears of life too. If you’re to stand a fighting chance of improving your speech, it’s imperative you learn to challenge the things you fear.
Most importantly, act the part. Emulate success and you’ll become what you emulate. You may not be able to emulate speaking perfectly, but you can emulate confidence. Stand tall, chin up, eye contact during conversations and smile. The more you look confident, the more you grow in confidence and confidence is what will get you to that happy stage where you can enjoy life, without worrying about how you sound.