Could it be possible that having a stammer could cause depression so severe that you would contemplate giving it all up?
For what reason would people do such a thing?
Is it because they simply want to speak like everyone else?
Depression and stammering are not that uncommon.
As someone who has been there, I can resonate with a few feelings you may have had…
• Little job prospects – the feeling that employers are unlikely to hire you because you can’t speak as fluently as other people
• Few phone conversations with your friends for the fear that you’ll use up their air time just trying to get the words out
• No partner because you feel you can’t get the courage to speak to people or even go out and meet new people
It’s all familiar territory for the majority of people who have the insecurities that come with speaking with a stammer.
It’s not something that goes away quickly, nor is it something that anti-depressant medications are going to fix. They’ll numb the pain, and perhaps even help you nod off at night, while all your thoughts are running rampant about how bad your prospects look to you.
There is a spark that you need to light and it is only you who can light it.
That spark is training yourself to feel better about you.
You need to give birth to a new voice. You can start it over, just as thousands of others who have managed to overcome stammering.
They take things one day at a time, and when the overwhelming feelings of anxiety occur, they know to take some time out; the mellow time to calm the mind, to ease the pressure of trying to perfect every syllable in every words pronunciation.
There are plenty of breathing exercises for stammering you can try, but you will find that every one of them is not designed to cure the problem. They’re designed to address the anxiety that causes the stammer to become worse.
Do any research online for breathing exercises to reduce stammering vs. breathing exercises to reduce anxiety and you’ll find their near identical.
The reason is simply that anxiety elevates stammering, and anxiety also contributes to mental health problems.
Do you see the pattern?
Now consider the skills you were born with. You didn’t know how to speak. You learned and it became a habit.
You didn’t know how to write, but now you can, and you probably can write in two styles. Print your name and sign it. You had to learn those two writing styles and now you don’t think twice when you’re asked to sign something (unless it’s a legal document).
The same thing needs to be applied to your speech. The learning you were familiar with in your school days that taught you 2 + 2 = 4, this is how to write, that’s bad behaviour, and milk is good for your teeth.
All the basics are there. They just need you to take a deep breath and revisit learning. Learn to hone in on your inner voice, because you do have what it takes to speak with fluency.
Think about when all those thoughts are whizzing around in your head. How do you hear them – with a stammer? I think not. They sound perfectly legible to you, but you just can’t get the words out the same way. It takes time. There’s no denying that but it is time well spent when you consider your future prospects when your self-esteem is bustling with confidence.
The future looks brighter.
Don’t ever let your stammer get the better of you. If it does, pop back here and look around the various posts on the blog, and reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org where I’ll be happy to help. If you want to pick up the phone – 0121 453 9208 is the number you can reach me on.